My take on Daddy/Dom Domestic/Discipline and Daddy/Daughter

What Is A Daddy Dom?

A Daddy & "Daddy's lil" girl" Ds relationship does not refer to the ages, real or pretend, of the participants.  (Cameron just turned 20 years old)  Nor does it imply closet desires. A Daddy Dom does not replace one's father.

A “real” father can’t be replaced because of the “history” and the genetic bonding.  The Daddy/Daughter can make their own history.  A History much closer to what they both may have wanted “history” to be.

 He is however a Daddy.

The Daughter does not have to always or perhaps ever “act” the part of a “little girl”.  The Daddy does not disrespect her or discount her or not validate her growth as a woman.   She is not a woman in a little girls “head” or a little girl in a woman’s “head”.  Outside people will more look at them and think “man, does he ever adore her”  rather than he is treating her in a child like way.  We we are out and about  most  people think that I and Sassy Jane are her parents.  She does call me Dad or  Daddy or perhaps even Chris.

A Daddy Dom does have the ability to make you feel like a "little girl", however, a very cherished "little girl". It is a feeling that is like no other, it is the safest place a "little girl" has ever been, and it allows you the freedom to be all that you are without fear of reprisals.  Daddy Dom is a feeling, an environment that two people have created.  A Daddy Dom is so named because of the qualities he possesses and the service he provides.

So, what are these qualities? What is a Daddy Dom?

A Daddy Dom wants to be the center of your universe.

He wants and needs to be the Alpha male until he is replaced.   BUT he can’t be replaced for what he is any more than her real father can be replaced.  He is not a husband or a boyfriend thought there is some overlap.        

 He wants to be able to provide for your every need and care.   Not to control but so that the choice is there for that if its needed or if you get in to deep and need the support. 

 But more than that he wants to be able to shape and mold you to the image he thinks you should become.  And/or the image that you and he have of the person you want to be.  He does not want to make you what he wants he wants to help you become what you want to be.

 He sees in you someone who can achieve a much higher, much greater status. He believes more in you than you believe in yourself.

He knows what you can do and what you can’t or don’t want to do.  Status means as a Mother, Friend, Sister, Daughter,  How high can you go and how high can he help you go towards becoming the best and most successful person.  

What he wants in return is to be able to bask in his image of you, the image he has created.  To achieve these goals he relies on a combination of love, respect, and discipline.

His love for his "little girl" goes without saying.  He loves her as much for who she is as for who she will become with his guidance.  She is his prized possession. His eyes light up when she walks into the room and he takes great pride in her successes. After all, he helped to create her. She holds the most tender part of his heart and has the greatest power to hurt him.

Because in her mind and heart they are one and because she has given t him her life and her heart and it was done by free will he can also loose it. 

This love would not be possible without respect. A Daddy Dom needs to feel pride in his "little girl". He needs to know she can hold her own in the outside world and still submit to him.

His first reasonability, in fact, to make sure she can survive, make good decisions, provide for herself and survive the loss of him.  Not the loss of his love because that is everlasting.

 He holds the greatest respect for the gift she has given him and takes great pains to increase its value. It is extremely important to him to know she can be with any man and she chooses to be with him.

And more so that it’s a choice she has made to be with him.  He knows three are “wanta bees” and flawed men that pull at her heart strings and that she pays a price to give him that gift.

He knows that this makes discipline a priority in their lives, more important than in some other D/s relationships. In order for the "little girl" to really trust, she must know he means what he says.  If his "little girl" is going to be the best she can possibly be he must stand firm. He uses his experience in life and his knowledge of her to provide proper direction and punishment when the need arises.

The punishment or discipline is not “made up” or “pretend” or “play”. Her real punishment is knowing that she as disappointed him.  She is willing to take the discipline to atone for her misbehaver.  But what she really wants first to feel accepted and loved even when she “slips” up.  Some aspects of the spanking is not so much discipline and is more or even much more a game they play regarding “getting away” with something and no getting caught or in fact getting caught.  She has the freedom to “take a chance” or “be a risk taker”.  She can ask herself  if the punishment is worth the risk and still know he will love her and accept her and even be proud of her for “taking” the risk.  She will be spanked, yes for a rule is a rule but  he respects her for have the confidence to try and “get what she wants” and moving outside the control in a “agreed to” way,     

If  he does not enforce discipline, this respect becomes a tenuous thing. If his submissive finds that she can manipulate him out of punishing her, she begins to lose respect and the ability to empower becomes impeded. He understands that it becomes increasingly difficult to be possessed by someone you do not respect.

This takes great strength on his part. It takes strength to control her, and to shape her to his needs and desires. It takes strength to be her confidant, her shoulder, her anchor.

It takes strength to let her out into the world when all he wants to do is hold her safe in his arms. And it takes strength to do what is necessary when she needs to be disciplined.

A Daddy Dom provides something else that is very important to his submissive...acceptance. She is safe in his arms because he knows her, everything about her, and he still loves her. When she goes to him she knows that this man knows all of her dirty little secrets and it doesn’t matter. To him she is beautiful.   Not just beautiful in the sense of face or body.  But even more so beautiful in the sense of  “who and what she is”.  He could never love her as he does if she was not flawed.  Its her flaws that draw him to her like a moth to the flame.   

Daddy Dom and sadistic Dom are by no means mutually exclusive.  Many Daddy Doms embrace their sadism while understanding and feeding their sub missive's masochism.  This balance is necessary to many "little girls" because it allows all parts of her to be nourished, leading to an incredibly fulfilling relationship.

I think most Dominants have a bit of the Daddy in them, taking on the role of male authority figure in the sub missive's life and using their power to enrich that life. A Daddy & "little girl" Ds relationship verbalizes that feeling, and adds a dimension of warmth, caring, and ritual that it’s participants crave.

There is something infinitely magical about a Daddy Dom. Perhaps it is something only a little girl can understand.

its only something a “real woman” can truly appreciate Or perhaps, just perhaps and understand